Let’s talk about how your thoughts about your circumstances keep you from asking for support in therapy.

Sure, you fight a lot with your spouse, and it’s annoying. You’re trying to forgive past hurts but haven’t quite been able to get there. You don’t have a lot of time for yourself, which gets to be exhausting. Your kids eat at your patience. Isn’t all of that normal for a busy mom? That’s just life, right? What would you even talk to a therapist about? Other people have it worse than you, so why would you ask for help?

I know that these thoughts come up when women consider whether or not to reach out for support. They think that their circumstances “aren’t that bad” or that going to therapy somehow confirms that their situation must be REALLY SHITTY, and that doesn’t feel good.  

I understand that paradigm; that’s the old way of thinking. Like, you go to the doctor when you’re sick. You see a therapist if you have a mental illness. 

But what if that’s not a fact? 

Facts vs Stories

What if reaching out  for support doesn’t mean that your life has gone to crap? What if it simply means that some aspects of your life aren’t where you’d like them to be? Not that there’s anything WRONG, just that some areas of your life are not bringing you as much joy as they otherwise could?

Seeking support takes acknowledging that you’d like to thrive instead of survive. That’s all.

Ask yourself this: On a scale of 1 to 10, how satisfied are you with your relationship? Your health? Your finances? Your career? If any of these are less than a 10, then therapy could be right for you. Working with a therapist helps you understand why these areas are less than a 10 and what it would take for them to be 10’s. 

You deserve to have more than a MEH marriage and relationship with yourself, and working with a therapist or other healer helps you cultivate those relationships.

So, sure you can keep on fighting with and feeling disconnected from your spouse, yelling at your kids, and feeling overburdened —- but what if things could be different? 

How Therapy Can Help

When you’re ready to acknowledge that you’d like things to change in your life, give me a call.  I’m here to reassure you that your circumstances are not inherently FLAWED… and to hold space for the vision of the life you dream about. Call me at 859-948-8606 or message me to set up a free consultation. Let’s show other women in Kentucky that getting support when you want it is NOT admitting defeat but an act of radical self-care.